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Martina’s take on Women
Mar 3rd
Women want to talk about men . . .
More specifically, all the things that men need to change or do differently in order for the relationship to work or for her to be happy. When did women get so out of balance that her happiness became a man’s responsibility?
A woman who is out of balance with herself imagines that all of the concerns in the relationship would disappear “if only he would change” or “if he would share his feelings”.
She becomes overly concerned with his emotional state and the fact that he “doesn’t share”. And when asked why she feels unhappy she will say, “it’s about Bob, I think he needs to do something new”.
Women tell men that they are not being “real men” and complain to each other that “he is not man enough for me”.
There is only one remedy for a woman to take – to realise that she needs to be more of a woman in order for her to experience the men around her differently, she needs to be willing to be vulnerable, to be tender, to be soft, exposed, expressive in her feminine essence. So many women have lost sight of what it is to be a woman. We have examples of the totally submissive woman throwing herself away and the totally emasculating woman taking control of everything. But where did the in tune, in touch, healthy expressive version of the feminine go? Where is the woman who is open, receptive, and wise? A real woman relaxes into her feeling nature, she uses structures and masculine intention where necessary but the way she moves within is from her feeling base, connected to herself as the source of knowing and feeling.
A real woman will nurture and tend to her inner needs. She will take time and space to recognise what is of value in her life, and she will give priority to what is of value. She will nurture real, loving and intimate communion with other women. She will support the men around her to grow, she will let him know what moves her, what touches her deeply and she will let him know when she experiences him being out of alignment with his values.
A real woman does not manipulate or use her sexuality to feel powerful or to fulfil her egoic desires for attention. She will not repress her sexuality or undervalue the natural power of her relaxed sensual, sexual being.
She will nurture herself sexually, she will feel confidently alive and loving and vibrant in her body. She is also discerning, she knows when to say yes and when to say no. In sexual relating, she will experience herself as open and receptive and she may be available to one man or many. She feels into the sexual opportunities to ascertain whether there is something of value for her, for him or both. She may ask, “Will it support us to move towards creating a more loving space for being of service to our communities?”
She gives herself lovingly to a man without expectation or condition. She allows her source, her love, to overflow and touch the man’s heart deeply.
She leaves a man free to discover for himself what it means to be a man. She takes care of her inner feminine and inner masculine so that she falls so deeply in love with life, there is no way out. She nurtures only that which is real inside of her. She drops all stories, agendas, performances and fantasies. She knows the quality experiences of connecting with her essence and she lives from this place. Sharing her essence with the world never drains her, is never a chore, simply an opportunity to share and amplify her inner experience.
She interfaces with the world through the feminine; she is tender, compassionate and loving in all thoughts and actions. The way she feels is expressed in her tone of voice, the way she holds her body and the expression on her face.
She celebrates life and inspires men and women to rejoice in life and the unique expression of their essence. She knows that men become men when women become women, as that is the way of polarity.
Polarity is always balancing itself, when a woman has moved into a masculine posture, the men she attracts will be more feminine; and when a woman falls deeply into her feminine she attracts masculine men. Women may force the premature end of a relationship due to “his lack of manliness”. However, she would find that through taking care of herself and learning to express her feminine, either the relationship will shift and he would reclaim the masculine space or the relationship will fall away, leaving her to attract a partner who is a more suitable polarity match.
So whenever, we are experiencing discomfort in our relationships and waiting for the other to change, look inside, ask yourself what needs to be taken care of internally. The discomfort is simply your own being calling you home. The joy of life is restored when men and women remember who they truly are.
Nipple-ation!
Dec 6th
Extracted from the writings of a profoundly wise man:
I heard this story once about a boy-child born into this world. The first thing that happened was his mother’s nipple was thrust into his face. Then, after a relatively short period, it was removed and forever hidden away from him.
Poor little fellow, without him consciously realizing it, he spent the rest of his life trying to see it and suck on it again. Every women he met became a potential candidate for this desperately sought reunion.
He was often hungry and restless because of this dilema.
Then, one day he met a very wise women. She said to him – “I am not your mother – No woman is – Leave my breasts alone – God is your only Mother – Go find her nipple and don’t come back until you know what I am. Only then will I lay naked in your arms.”
This really messed up everything for him. He had lived his whole life up to that moment assuming he knew what love is and why he did what he did in the world.
It was a shocking revelation: MAN-NIPPLE-NATION … MANIPULATION!
Within this revelation he perceived clearly that while he treated women this way, while he treated ANYTHING this way – he was nothing more than an insatiable sucker.
Oh! I suddenly realized…this is a story about me!
Realignment of masculine / feminine energy
Feb 8th
As men and women reconnect with their true selves, their masculine and feminine energies realign. When realigned, women feel more receptive and magnetic in their being, creating space for surrender and opening to men in a more natural way and men experience an increase in their masculine potency and come to trust their ability to initiate energy and bring clarity to a woman.
Conventional sexual practices overlook the importance of the polarity between men and women. This creates a situation where many women have tension in their vagina, unable to fully receive a man’s energy from his penis and the man is often disconnected or overwhelmed by the energy in his penis unable to fully utilise the energy there to open a woman. Also the importance of the heart in completing the cycle of sexual energy is largely overlooked.
A woman’s positive pole is her heart and her negative pole is the vagina, for a man his positive pole is his penis and his negative pole is his heart. When a man and woman connect energetically, the man initiates the woman with the energy from his positive pole, the penis and this energy is received by her negative, or receptive pole, the vagina. This energy flows through the woman’s body towards her heart, which is her positive polarity, so that when a woman is connected to her heart and breasts, she is then able to penetrate the man’s heart, his negative polarity, with her heart energy.
Engaging in sexual activity where you connect energetically through the natural polarities leaves you and your lover feeling nourished, nurtured and fulfilled which creates a sense of peace, joy and gratitude that permeates the daily routine of your life.
WOMEN IN TOUCH
Dec 16th
I offer private sessions to women who are looking for support in their journey to their fullest expression of themselves.
This is an opportunity to explore and tap into what has been lost and forgotten in our modern western culture where a tendency to focus on performance and outcome has infused sexual intimacy with a need to live up to standards which drain and exhaust most women. Fears of under-performing, of disappointing, of showing some lack or inadequacy inhibit most women’s natural grace and aliveness from being expressed in the bedroom.
Part of this process may include a release of deeply held tensions that creep in as a result of “hard-living.” We travel together to discover the softness that lies within your body. As this emerges, you also discover the lover within – the woman who longs to writhe with pleasure and ecstasy in tune with the breath and pulse of her own body, instead of under direction of the masculine mind. Through this, you will restore the natural magnetism of a woman who truly knows her inner self and expresses it through her body.
Let’s open to our deepest expression of Love …
What a Woman!
Dec 13th
I see again why I”m such a net junky – there is so much out there online to feed and nourish my hunger and quest to understand more about Sacred Sexuality. And I love to share the treasures I find:
For the past year I have been praying, sending my intention out to the universe, to fully embody my spirit in my body. I long to fully anchor my divine self and see my divine self as my true self, to not identify with the unconscious confusion and chaos self, but to identify with my conscious, fully aware authentic self. Because I want to see Heaven emerge on Earth, I feel I must anchor my heaven in my earth body. Clearly in no time in my life did this occur more profoundly than when I stepped fully into my sexual energy and meditated in deeply blissed out energy.
Imagine what the world would look like if there were millions of women who were anchors of ecstatic bliss energy. Imagine if there were millions of women who were eschewing convention and walking their path towards their authentic nature, who let go the norms of social conformity in favor of following their heart bliss. Imagine if the world was filled with juicy mamas who love to be loved, and love to get loved on. Imagine if millions of women were fully in their bodies, fully activated in their sensuality, fully released into their creative liberation.. What kind of world would we be living in? We would live in a world where people would rather make love than cut down trees or enslave other people. We would live in a world where we wouldn’t need prostitutes. We would live in a world where everybody was met and loved, cared for and nurtured, such that the only thing we would want is to make sure others are getting enough too. We would live in a world where the top priority is to take care of each other, because taking care of each other is taking care of the whole. We as individuals are a part of that whole.
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To all you women who don’t know how to get from point A to point Z, but think the journey looks appealing and the end result even more appealing, all I can say is this: be receptive to change. Become an agent of transformation. Do not hold onto what is not serving you.
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We live in a culture that is absolutely afraid of sexual liberation. The suppression of sexuality is deeply ingrained in our collective consciousness. It is the repression of it that causes sexuality to be expressed in the forms of prostitution, strip clubs and online porn. This happens because the men are hungry and need to be fed. We live in a culture that criminalizes whores, denies them recognition and visibility, and secretly tolerates hoards of them because society would go haywire if whores weren’t available. At the same time, they are brandished as shameful lepers by society.
But if women weren’t suppressed in their bodies or their psyches and we were free to be powerful pleasure beings, if sexuality wasn’t so deeply repressed and the life force love energy within each one of us so deeply malnourished, we wouldn’t have any of this collective shame about owning our right to freely enjoy joy. We would step into ourselves, and we would step into each other, with gratitude for the gifts that each of us is to each other. We would step into our bodies with gratitude for our pleasure receptors. We would honor each other when we each nurture ourselves. Ultimately, by doing so, we would co-create peace on Planet Earth – because the priorities would shift from war, corruption, media lies, and economic disparity to nurturing, feeding, and loving each other, supporting the achievement of our highest potentials, so we can contribute to the whole by nurturing ourselves.
What is the Feminine?
Jun 8th
I sometimes work with people around the differences between men and women and why it can be so difficult for each to understand the other gender. Particularly when it comes to sexuality, there seem to be vast differences. Men are very keen to understand and know women and what makes them tick. Unfortunately our society tends to squash the true feminine essence and women have learnt to cope in a fairly masculine environment where striving and seeking success, is the order of the day. The mental world is substituted for heart. Sadly, women loose touch with their inner core and build walls around their hearts in order to protect themselves.
Men feel a yearning to connect with the feminine essence. There is a cultural imbalance which doesn’t allow them to express or even feel their inner feminine. (By feminine I mean the softness and flow of surrender to what is and to the heart, not to wearing dresses or high heels!) They also don’t often encounter women who bring them access to the deepest richness of the true feminine. They’re left seeking sexual experiences that might somehow give them little glimpses or tastes of it. Women pick up on this hunger and if they themselves aren’t open to sharing their feminine essence, the male hunger can seem overwhelming or intrusive or demanding. This causes them to close even further. Many broken relationships or unfulfilling sexual encounters are a result of this picture.
Through the restoration of heart-centred loving, we rediscover the true feminine – both men and women. A lot of what I offer through my sessions, revolves around this discovery.
I was just enjoying an article I read somewhere, that highlighted these thoughts for me:
In the beginning there was the void, and in this pregnant space of nothingness, everything began to appear, and the witness sat in wonder and awe at the beauty of everythingness.
Everything that you can see, feel, experience apart from the witness is feminine, even your mind is feminine – isn’t it always changing?
The pregnant void yearned and needed… it wanted to see itself, and in a moment of separation it became two.
In order to enjoy the play of two with understanding…opposites were created – the masculine and the feminine.
And every single person is a unique mixture of these opposites – masculine and feminine. And we have to spend our entire lives coming back to oneness with ourselves or with another.
The masculine in each of us – is the ‘witness’ and our stillness; the part of you that has always been the same; if you like, the thing that looks through your eyes but will never be able to see yourself.
The feminine in each of us – ‘is absolutely everything else’.
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Beautiful Women
Apr 20th
I enjoy reading David Deida’s books and have a few PDF’s written by him. I highly recommend that you look him up online. He writes a lot about sacred sexuality and has a fresh and alternative approach. Try this for size and please let me know what you think:
Your attraction to women, all kinds of women, is natural, normal, and beautiful. In fact, it is an aspect of the same desire that will ultimately lead you toward spiritual freedom.
Your desire for a woman is an aspect of your desire for pleasurable oneness. Your confession of desire is a confession of your desire to embrace life. To embrace life, to relax into oneness so that all opposites, including masculine and feminine, find their unity in love, is to be spiritually free. Eventually you will recognize that all desire is an aspect of your native impulse to give love. From beginning to end, your attraction to women can be seen as the essential gesture of your heart, your desire for love and unity
If you are a man with a masculine sexual essence, you will always feel sexual polarity with anyone who animates feminine energy. You may feel this attraction many times a day, with many women. Enjoy it. Women are a blessing! The feminine, even in the non-human forms of a lush tropical island, a cold beer, or your favorite tune, could make the difference between dreariness and ahhh-ing in ecstasy. Our acceptance of sexual attraction, even with music and places, is at the root of our capacity to experience bodily pleasure.
Sexual attraction, however, is very different from having sex. There is a big difference between choosing to be intimate with a woman and simply being attracted to her energy and radiance. Intimacy is a choice between people who want to commit to loving and serving one another. Whereas the zing of attraction is a choiceless natural flow of energy between your masculine core and feminine energy, wherever it is found. When a woman is relaxed in her feminine radiance, she is like beautiful music or a warm ocean breeze. You don’t need to have sex with her to savor inexpressible joy.
If you are like most men, a radiant woman can inspire you for hours or days. Remember, the desire she arouses in you is a blessing in itself. Acting on that desire and pursuing her is another matter entirely, dependent on whether such an action would truly serve both of you or not. But the mere inspiration felt while beholding a radiant woman is one of nature’s gifts to you: the gift of feminine blessing.
The next time you come upon a woman who sends a thrill through your body, relax into the thrill. Let her waves of feminine energy move through your body like a deep massage. Breathe fully, without resisting the joy her sighting affords you. Breathe the joy all through your body, down to your toes. Don’t stare at her, don’t even interact with her. But when you see her, and you experience your attraction, fully allow the energy of attraction to move freely through your body. Learn to magnify and sustain your desire, so your whole body and breath open and deepen by its force. As you behold her, receive her vision as a blessing.
Matangi
Apr 12th
Something for those who’re inclined this way… Hear it with your heart:
“Matangi remains in our core-and to find that center we must drop into our self. We must sit quietly, with gaze turned inward, we must be still and listen to our heart beat, the pulse of our existence, the drumbeat that unites all life on this planet, the rhythmic dance of our Earthly and Cosmic Mother. She is inside us. We will find Matangi in our hearts and in our yonis waiting for us to listen to Her instinctual powerful call. With Her grace we manifest love that brings freedom. With Her love we actualize passion and fervor. With Her grace we merge tensions that have split and fragmented us for ages. With Her guidance we come to know our Divinity.
Matangi is the power of the sexually mature woman. The woman who is lover to herself above and beyond being lover to Other. She knows every union is a sacred Union with the One.. She is the one who makes choices based on the wisdom of her body, not out of fear of the consequences that patriarchal reality threatens her with. She is woman who is free.”
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Jean-Pierre Hartman
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Eckhart Tolle
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