This little bit of simple but unconventional advice, comes highly recommended (by me!) When we feel our bodies beginning to light up with a higher vibration of sexual energy, why not take a deep breath and release the growing tension from all the muscles – especially in the pelvic area. Do so by simply noticing where there is tension, breathing in deeply and slowly releasing the breath along with the tension. You could even go so far as to catch your partners eye while you do so, and give a little smile. If you’re alone, smile to yourself. Great things WILL happen.

When sexually aroused, we tend to tense up. We generally want to reach orgasm as quickly as possible, so we concentrate our excitement in the genital area. Often, we unconsciously hold our breath at the same time. Practice doing the opposite. Breathe deeply and relax into increasing levels of sexual arousal, without rushing toward orgasm. If and when orgasm occurs, it will release a healing flood of pleasure throughout your entire body.

Jalaja Bonheim