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Men love to please women!

Most men that I speak to, tell me that what they love most is to experience a woman in pleasure. The challenge they face is knowing how to get that right – particularly with “their” woman.

One of the reason why men love to please women is because of what it does for them physically. It turns them on and excites them. A second reason is that it feeds into their ego desire to “win” with a woman.

Women can sense if your wish to please her has more to do with your  ego or your fantasies, than with her pure being and with your pleasure in being with the real her. Women sense when they are  meant to be playing into a man’s fantasy and they have no idea how to fulfill this fantasy image in your head. Many women withdraw from living out their sexuality fully, if they feel it needs to look a certain way in order to meet their partner’s mental image. The image is not the problem – the problem is when you confuse her with the image!

A good test of what your desire to please a woman is really about is to ask yourself whether you’ve  ever taken the time to talk to her about what works or doesn’t work for you both. Most men would rather do what they believe she wants or what would most excite them mentally and erotically when giving to her.  True pleasure is when your giving pleases you physically more than mentally. And woman can feel the difference.

Many women find it difficult to express themselves sexually or  to know for themselves what it is that they enjoy, but here lies your true challenge – to support her in discovering and expressing her truth …

If your giving is more about your fantasies or your  ego, you will be more in your head than in your body – and woman can sense this. When you’re with a woman, BE with her, physically and mentally – and she will open to you in ways you haven’t dreamed of.

In my experience and understanding, what pleases women most is a man who is fully present with her with all of his attention and energy. This means giving up the distractions in your mind and simply being with what is right there in the room with you. It means not being distracted by your ego’s desire to be “successful” in pleasing her. If you stop striving to please her, she may equally stop demanding to be pleased. Women need to be given the opportunity and the space and the encouragement to own their own pleasure. You can support her in getting there.

Be willing to be fully with her and to get into how it feels to feel her, and to feel how you feel when you do this. This is a fully embodied experience. The sessions offered here can assist you in understanding this and making it a part of your loving.

A truly balanced man has learned how to step right into his pleasure in his body, instead of getting off on her pleasure. A truly balanced woman has learned to take responsibility for her own longing for connection and intimacy and to not depend on her partner to take her there.

Only when a man is tapping into his own sexual essence, can he really offer his partner anything. Men are built to feed women with their essence. Most men have forgotten how to hold their essence and energy in such a way that women can draw on it.

I would love to show you how …