Posts tagged energy flow

The following piece is from the e-newsletter of an American sex educator by the name of Maurice Tate. He’s quite an unusual person and rather radical in the way he writes and the services he offers:

When we first had this experience some years ago, she described a
state beyond thoughts and which was much deeper than sexual pleasure.
It was like she went beyond pleasure into a spiritual place of no
boundaries and intense ecstasy.

I noticed a nice change in my lover that lasted for months. She seems
much more content and loving, less critical and much more fulfilled.

The following are some tips to these deep sexual states based on my
own experiences with two lovers, one from the past and my current
girlfriend.

I asked my girlfriend some questions about these experiences:

“It takes time for me to enter into these states. I do not think too
much, but rather just surrender into the flow of sex. Its like
dancing when your body just moves to the music totally effortlessly.
I am in the moment, in the energetic flow, in my heart and feeling
totally open.

I start to expand out of the density into a higher finer vibration
and be in that. So I come out of the density of my body and go up
to a higher, finer vibration.

Its like my awareness expands and everything stops and just is. The
world drops away and it is more like expanding out of my physical
body but I am still in it. I enter into or expend into higher
vibrational senses, beyond orgasm.

Its like finding more of my whole self, experiencing my inner
stillness and universal energy. This state also has a witnessing
quality.

I need my lover to feel present with me energetically. Its like a
sexual dance and we both follow the sexual energy. It is a dance of
ecstasy.

When I start to dive deep, it helps me if I feel he is entering that
state too. The man needs to be able to step into a place when a women
totally opens, of carefully, honoring, supporting and loving me.

Sometimes I will follow my partners breath and sometimes he follows
my breath. By dong this I can experience energy circulating between
us”

I asked her what is one thing to focus on to develop these deep states.

“One has to risk being totally open, totally vulnerable. It took me
many years of sexual exploration to really experience this”

That last line may seem a little discouraging :) Or else it can be seen as a wonderful invitation to what you can be busy with for the rest of your life. Even though what is described seems a little unconventional and may sound much too unusual to even imagine getting there, in my experience it takes a desire to explore and the willingness to let go – increasingly. It’s not a fast-track method. You won’t find it in the pages of Cosmo or Men’s Health. Why not? Because it involves changing your basic way of living and being. In order to be as quiet and patient as what she is describing (which is the key to opening the body to this type of bliss) you have to develop an inner stillness and a surrender to non-doing that is quite the opposite to our typical Western life-style.

There are many ways in which men and women are quite naturally wired for this, and with a little help and guidance, both men and women can find their role and step into it.

Two other excellent articles are:

Making sex last longer

And one I would highly recommend:

Daily sexual devotion