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Bliss trance states
Dec 10th
The following piece is from the e-newsletter of an American sex educator by the name of Maurice Tate. He’s quite an unusual person and rather radical in the way he writes and the services he offers:
When we first had this experience some years ago, she described a
state beyond thoughts and which was much deeper than sexual pleasure.
It was like she went beyond pleasure into a spiritual place of no
boundaries and intense ecstasy.I noticed a nice change in my lover that lasted for months. She seems
much more content and loving, less critical and much more fulfilled.The following are some tips to these deep sexual states based on my
own experiences with two lovers, one from the past and my current
girlfriend.I asked my girlfriend some questions about these experiences:
“It takes time for me to enter into these states. I do not think too
much, but rather just surrender into the flow of sex. Its like
dancing when your body just moves to the music totally effortlessly.
I am in the moment, in the energetic flow, in my heart and feeling
totally open.I start to expand out of the density into a higher finer vibration
and be in that. So I come out of the density of my body and go up
to a higher, finer vibration.Its like my awareness expands and everything stops and just is. The
world drops away and it is more like expanding out of my physical
body but I am still in it. I enter into or expend into higher
vibrational senses, beyond orgasm.Its like finding more of my whole self, experiencing my inner
stillness and universal energy. This state also has a witnessing
quality.I need my lover to feel present with me energetically. Its like a
sexual dance and we both follow the sexual energy. It is a dance of
ecstasy.When I start to dive deep, it helps me if I feel he is entering that
state too. The man needs to be able to step into a place when a women
totally opens, of carefully, honoring, supporting and loving me.Sometimes I will follow my partners breath and sometimes he follows
my breath. By dong this I can experience energy circulating between
us”I asked her what is one thing to focus on to develop these deep states.
“One has to risk being totally open, totally vulnerable. It took me
many years of sexual exploration to really experience this”
That last line may seem a little discouraging :) Or else it can be seen as a wonderful invitation to what you can be busy with for the rest of your life. Even though what is described seems a little unconventional and may sound much too unusual to even imagine getting there, in my experience it takes a desire to explore and the willingness to let go – increasingly. It’s not a fast-track method. You won’t find it in the pages of Cosmo or Men’s Health. Why not? Because it involves changing your basic way of living and being. In order to be as quiet and patient as what she is describing (which is the key to opening the body to this type of bliss) you have to develop an inner stillness and a surrender to non-doing that is quite the opposite to our typical Western life-style.
There are many ways in which men and women are quite naturally wired for this, and with a little help and guidance, both men and women can find their role and step into it.
Two other excellent articles are:
And one I would highly recommend:
Second Secret
Dec 21st
ORGASMIC SECRET#2:
High levels of arousal are best learned by using surprisingly little (in fact, in the beginning, almost no) stimulation!
Orgasm is only indirectly a function of stimulation. Orgasm is primarily the result of arousal.
When we realize this fact, we can begin to identify and distinguish between the activities which “set the stage” for triggering the male ejaculation reflex versus those activities that will consistently trigger the spontaneous rushes of intense pleasure (i.e., the multiple orgasm reflex, as distinct from the ejaculation reflex) in both men and women.
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Activities leading to triggering ejaculation
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Patterns typically learned from childhood
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Activities leading to triggering multiple orgasm without requiring ejaculation control methods
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While learning how to open to multiple orgasms
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Characteristics of male orgasm with ejaculation
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Characteristics of male multiple orgasm without ejaculation
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WOMEN IN TOUCH
Dec 16th
I offer private sessions to women who are looking for support in their journey to their fullest expression of themselves.
This is an opportunity to explore and tap into what has been lost and forgotten in our modern western culture where a tendency to focus on performance and outcome has infused sexual intimacy with a need to live up to standards which drain and exhaust most women. Fears of under-performing, of disappointing, of showing some lack or inadequacy inhibit most women’s natural grace and aliveness from being expressed in the bedroom.
Part of this process may include a release of deeply held tensions that creep in as a result of “hard-living.” We travel together to discover the softness that lies within your body. As this emerges, you also discover the lover within – the woman who longs to writhe with pleasure and ecstasy in tune with the breath and pulse of her own body, instead of under direction of the masculine mind. Through this, you will restore the natural magnetism of a woman who truly knows her inner self and expresses it through her body.
Let’s open to our deepest expression of Love …
What a Woman!
Dec 13th
I see again why I”m such a net junky – there is so much out there online to feed and nourish my hunger and quest to understand more about Sacred Sexuality. And I love to share the treasures I find:
For the past year I have been praying, sending my intention out to the universe, to fully embody my spirit in my body. I long to fully anchor my divine self and see my divine self as my true self, to not identify with the unconscious confusion and chaos self, but to identify with my conscious, fully aware authentic self. Because I want to see Heaven emerge on Earth, I feel I must anchor my heaven in my earth body. Clearly in no time in my life did this occur more profoundly than when I stepped fully into my sexual energy and meditated in deeply blissed out energy.
Imagine what the world would look like if there were millions of women who were anchors of ecstatic bliss energy. Imagine if there were millions of women who were eschewing convention and walking their path towards their authentic nature, who let go the norms of social conformity in favor of following their heart bliss. Imagine if the world was filled with juicy mamas who love to be loved, and love to get loved on. Imagine if millions of women were fully in their bodies, fully activated in their sensuality, fully released into their creative liberation.. What kind of world would we be living in? We would live in a world where people would rather make love than cut down trees or enslave other people. We would live in a world where we wouldn’t need prostitutes. We would live in a world where everybody was met and loved, cared for and nurtured, such that the only thing we would want is to make sure others are getting enough too. We would live in a world where the top priority is to take care of each other, because taking care of each other is taking care of the whole. We as individuals are a part of that whole.
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To all you women who don’t know how to get from point A to point Z, but think the journey looks appealing and the end result even more appealing, all I can say is this: be receptive to change. Become an agent of transformation. Do not hold onto what is not serving you.
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We live in a culture that is absolutely afraid of sexual liberation. The suppression of sexuality is deeply ingrained in our collective consciousness. It is the repression of it that causes sexuality to be expressed in the forms of prostitution, strip clubs and online porn. This happens because the men are hungry and need to be fed. We live in a culture that criminalizes whores, denies them recognition and visibility, and secretly tolerates hoards of them because society would go haywire if whores weren’t available. At the same time, they are brandished as shameful lepers by society.
But if women weren’t suppressed in their bodies or their psyches and we were free to be powerful pleasure beings, if sexuality wasn’t so deeply repressed and the life force love energy within each one of us so deeply malnourished, we wouldn’t have any of this collective shame about owning our right to freely enjoy joy. We would step into ourselves, and we would step into each other, with gratitude for the gifts that each of us is to each other. We would step into our bodies with gratitude for our pleasure receptors. We would honor each other when we each nurture ourselves. Ultimately, by doing so, we would co-create peace on Planet Earth – because the priorities would shift from war, corruption, media lies, and economic disparity to nurturing, feeding, and loving each other, supporting the achievement of our highest potentials, so we can contribute to the whole by nurturing ourselves.
Why tantra?
Nov 13th
The ethos of Tantra is to provide experiences and teachings that can help us find contentment, inner joy, delight, innocence and aliveness. When our illusions, confusions, doubts, denials and unworthiness are lifted, there lies our ecstatic nature, our essential being. Our society does not encourage these states of love, beauty, joy & peace. We long for these qualities and out of our grief and longing we armour ourselves and get on with what we are encouraged to do, which is building our materialistic world, as though this itself was compensation for true pleasure.
Our anti ecstatic society promotes states of guilt, shame and judgement in which the spilt between heart and sex, the lack of honour around our sexuality, means that we become less than whole. Tantra’s purpose is to help heal the shame and guilt around our sexuality and to help us treat our bodies with love and respect. When we move to a place of seeing our sexuality as sacred, we can touch base with our ecstatic nature that is full of beauty.”
(This beautiful piece of writing was borrowed from here. Many thanks)
Jean-Pierre Hartman
Massage.co.za
Eckhart Tolle
Jeff Foster