This post may seem way off the topic of touch and sexuality (just as many of the articles I post seem to be.) If you’re wondering why I post stuff that doesn’t seem relevant to sexuality and more along the lines of philosophy or spirituality, it’s because I write about my passions! So how do sexuality and spirituality go together? In my world – they do!

Sexuality IS life – it’s passion; it’s joy; it’s dance; it’s eating and drinking and loving and sharing and being in wonder at the moment which we breathe and move in. Sexual energy is life-force energy. Sexual expression is a celebration of life (or it can be that.) Sex is not just a genital affair. Sex is eyes, ears and mouth. Sex is feet and hands. Sex is fingers and toes. Sex is skin and hair. And when we touch sex we touch life. So enjoy!!

While on a recent journey, listening to music, it occurred to me that music is a form of worship. This idea is nothing new, but the experience was new to me. It is an offering to the Divine. Whether it be birds singing, or the music of rain falling, or one of the musicians I love so much, it is all an offering to the Divine, and the place where this worship is received (get this) is in Awareness. I am awareness, but no more so than you, and I am the space where the Divine receives these offerings of worship. And every single sincere song was written in hopes that one day, you, or I, would bring them into the sacred chapel of our awareness and give them audience, would receive the worship.

All the love ever offered to God, is directed to You. You’re It. You are the reason love songs were written. You’re the reason women pray to become pregnant. You are what honorable men go to war to protect. You are the reason worship was invented. And I am as serious as a heart attack. This is no airy-fairy, wouldn’t it be great if this were true, B.S. This IS the truth, as best I can see it and report it.

So, the next time someone suggests that you’re not good enough, first (in your mind at least) ask the question, “Good enough for whom?” Then realize that if they are talking about your ego, your identity, they could well be right. But if they are talking about You, they could not… be… farther… from the truth.

~ c a r s o n

As men and women reconnect with their true selves, their masculine and feminine energies realign. When realigned, women feel more receptive and magnetic in their being, creating space for surrender and opening to men in a more natural way and men experience an increase in their masculine potency and come to trust their ability to initiate energy and bring clarity to a woman.

Conventional sexual practices overlook the importance of the polarity between men and women. This creates a situation where many women have tension in their vagina, unable to fully receive a man’s energy from his penis and the man is often disconnected or overwhelmed by the energy in his penis unable to fully utilise the energy there to open a woman. Also the importance of the heart in completing the cycle of sexual energy is largely overlooked.

A woman’s positive pole is her heart and her negative pole is the vagina, for a man his positive pole is his penis and his negative pole is his heart. When a man and woman connect energetically, the man initiates the woman with the energy from his positive pole, the penis and this energy is received by her negative, or receptive pole, the vagina. This energy flows through the woman’s body towards her heart, which is her positive polarity, so that when a woman is connected to her heart and breasts, she is then able to penetrate the man’s heart, his negative polarity, with her heart energy.

Engaging in sexual activity where you connect energetically through the natural polarities leaves you and your lover feeling nourished, nurtured and fulfilled which creates a sense of peace, joy and gratitude that permeates the daily routine of your life.

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Here is a piece of writing that I thoroughly enjoyed. I think people mistakenly presume that transforming sexuality to something sacred and loving, means it loses it’s fire. Not so. You’d do well to read the entire article in order to get the full context, but if you only have time for a bite-sized portion – taste this!

In case it hasn’t been clear by now, intentional sexuality is hot. It’s fun, it’s erotic, it’s a remarkable form of play. It’s okay that it’s hot. It’s great that it’s hot; it’s Divine that it’s hot. For pagans and polytheists, this play is holy and invoking the energies of nature is holy. But even for monotheists and monists, if the manifest universe is an expression of the Divine, playing with Itself, coming to know Itself, loving Itself, then the more we immerse ourselves in that cosmic drama, the more we ourselves are expressing God. Becoming fully, electrically alive; growing exquisitely sensitive to eros – this is being and becoming aware of God Itself.

via Reality Sandwich | Intentional Sexuality: Possibilities and Perils.

I’d like to point out that no matter what your spiritual position might be, to embrace your physicality and your humanness is healthy. It does not mean you have to take on paganism or any form of belief that goes contrary to what feels right to you. It doesn’t even require you to be spiritual in any of the typical forms that we know. Your unique relationship with who you really are, is all that matters. What matters is whether you are able to step out of conventional thinking and to give up the comfort zone, in order to gain “heaven” – whatever  heaven might mean for you.

Without looking to the mind for an answer, can you just notice what is here right now? Does the sea of sensation and energy and presence that is here right now really make up some thing called a body or a person? Or does it make up a sea of sensation, energy, and presence? We are used to letting the mind tell us what is so, just as we get used to having the news on television tell us what is happening. And yet when it comes to our own experience, we can go directly to the source.

What is the sensation in your arms right now? Can you even really put it into words or is it something beyond words? And what about the space around your arms? Does your sensing really stop where the skin stops, or is there some kind of impression of the whole area around your physical arms in awareness right now? Where is the awareness that senses your arms located? Is it in your head, or is it in your head and your arms?

Questions like these are not meant to lead you anywhere but right to where you are already. There is no particular need for a profound experience of bliss or cosmic light, when every experience including the most ordinary is so mysterious. And if you happen to have an experience of bliss, then you can check it out also. But for now, why not check out what is here already?

The wonderful thing about this simple form of inquiry is that you are never done. There is always a new sea of sensation, energy, and presence unfolding into each moment’s experience. Even thoughts and feelings are just a flow of internal sensations: voices, pictures, and emotional energies that ebb and flow. How do you know what you are sensing right now? How do you know what you are thinking or feeling right now? What is it that registers all of the movement, color, sound, pressure, texture, language, contrast, and space that is happening right now as you read these words?

There is a wonderful relief in asking the questions and not having to formulate an answer in your mind. The questions are like an invitation to fully taste and savor the exquisite flavors of all of these qualities. Life doesn’t need a conclusion to be alive.

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It’s sometimes quite difficult to translate my personal understanding and the freedom I enjoy sexually, into user-friendly techniques. It took me a long time to even begin to grasp what some of this stuff was about. It has crept in slowly from many angles and through numerous rich and diverse experiences that I’ve risked experimenting with. It hasn’t been easy or fun all the way. I’m immensely thankful for the people who have crossed my path over the last few years who have enriched my life through what they know, through what they have passed on to me or simply through them being who they are and in that way reflecting to me what is possible.

Osho’s words arrived in my mailbox this morning and spoke quite profoundly to me of this weird paradox of understanding versus not. I hope it speaks to some of you too, and helps to ease your way:

You come to me seeking knowledge. You want set formulas so that you can cling to them. I don’t give you any. In fact, if you have any I take them away. By and by, I destroy your certainty. By and by, I make you more and more hesitant. By and by, I make you more and more insecure.
That is the only thing that has to be done. That’s the only thing a master needs to do! To leave you in total freedom. In total freedom, with all the possibilities opening, nothing fixed… you will have to be aware. Nothing else is possible.
Osho

There is so much happening in my life, all the time, but I don’t often reflect it in the articles on this blog partly because the bulk of my readership are passers-by who drop in and leave again, most never to return. For those who return here, I would love to give you more regular updates on what I’m learning and discovering and how that might be useful to you.

What comes to me today, is that it’s so easy to look at other people’s lives and situations and imagine that they have it much easier than you do personally. Everyone else has happier marriages, better-behaved children, faster cars and looks smarter than you do (not to forget “is having better sex more often than you are!”)

Of course at another level, we live in the idea that we’re way better off than the next guy.

Both these states of mind are an illusion and a waste of time. I say that because we’ll never really know what is true for the next guy. What we see on the outside, is just appearances. We judge or envy others but we don’t really have much insight into what goes on behind his closed doors (including behind the look on his face.)

What we don’t spend much time doing is consciously reflecting on our own inner state of being. Yes, we certainly think thoughts about ourselves and we judge and criticise ourselves for not “making the grade.” We learn to hide this very well by acting cool and putting on all the accessories we need to seem fine, but for most people the conversation in our head with ourselves about ourselves, is pretty bad news.

So what to do!? What I’m finding as a way out of this state of mind, is that instead of thinking more about it, I go deeper inside, into that place I teach about in sessions where you feel your being from deep inside yourself. There is no thought there – only silent reflection. There’s a subtle difference between the analysis of the mind and inner awareness of being. The mind is thought. Awareness is something like a feeling. It’s conscious and so it’s very close to what thought looks like, but it doesn’t have much content. One way of expressing it, is in the ancient words “I am.”

So my reflection today on what has been happening lately in my life, is that I have times where I am so tired of what i think about myself and others that I HAVE to stop and go within and just feel my own heart. It’s incredibly peaceful to do this. I’ve learnt to find and cultivate a warm and positive attitude in there, that is not thought-based but is felt as bliss. It’s the real truth and it’s not based on comparison to others. It’s deeply rooted in the simple realisation that I am. And that’s good enough.

Sitting alone in your room, be loving. Radiate love. Fill the whole room with your love energy, as if you are in an ocean of love.

Create vibrations of love energy around you. And you will start feeling immediately that something is happening, something in your aura is changing, something around your body is changing. A warmth is arising around your body… a warmth like deep orgasm.

You are becoming more alive. Something like sleep is disappearing. Something like awareness is arising.
Osho