When you think about it, foreplay is really about touch.

Most women are very sensitive to the quality and intent of touch. The best way to see this is to do the following simple
exercise that will only take 5 minutes of your time.

Tell your lover that you are going to touch in different ways for one minute at a time. Now touch your partner only from the fingers to the elbows.

Now each minute touch a different way and tell your partner when you are changing but not what you are doing different.

* Touch like you are massaging.

* Touch with your mind on work, money etc

* Touch with total concentration on the sensations under your fingers and the pleasure of this.

* Touch to try to turn on your lover.

Now have a discussion on which type of touch felt more erotic and sensual.

Take turns and swap roles and then compare notes.

Most people find that paying a lot of attention to the sensations when touching, allows the receiver to feel much more pleasure.

One could call this being present in the touch. Many women find it difficult to find a man that is really present in lovemaking.

Most men seem to focus on trying to turn on their lover and are very goal orientated. This simple exercise shows how easy it is to be more present in one’s touch.

MAURICE TATE