Something struck me this weekend. I was experiencing pain over a “loss” that I was thinking about. I was driving along with so much sadness and was thinking the whole situation over and becoming quite negative emotionally. At the same time I was looking for a way out of my unhappiness. It dawned on me that I had absolute freedom of choice whether to continue making myself unhappy with these unhappy thoughts – all of which I was generating myself through repeating my thoughts to myself, or whether I could just stop it. So I stopped it. And then I was no longer unhappy about the situation. It was neither good nor bad. It was just a situation. Painful in itself but not actually making more pain by rolling around in it.

As I’ve reflected further on this, I’ve been remembering stories about other people’s sadnesses. People can tell you stories about things that they’re unhappy about and you can hear the story and notice their unhappiness. But it doesn’t hurt you in the same way as you have some distance from the story. You aren’t participating in it. You haven’t OWNED it as a story about you. But they have done so and so for them it’s intensely painful as they remember their feelings and as they evaluate the good/bad or right/wrong around whatever the events might be. As an outsider though, it’s to you simply a string of events. You don’t identify with it as YOUR story.

How about if we do the same with our own stories? It’s feels incredibly liberating to me to see that I don’t need to make a story about my stories. Things happened. Ok, and then? Then they stopped happening. And then? Well, now I remember what happened and I’m thinking about it all and I’m making a big event over it and it’s very sad. Really? Why’re you doing that?

Let that simmer in you for a while, and if you’d like to talk about it then I’d love to talk with you too.

Meaning is imagined, projected.

If we don’t search for meaning then there is nothing meaningless either, then things are simply as they are.

Sometimes it is cloudy and sometimes it is very sunny; sometimes it is very silent and sometimes it is very noisy. Things are as they are, and one starts enjoying whatsoever is moment to moment.

That is the basic message of meditation: to live life without any idea of purpose, meaning, profit; to just live it for the sheer joy of living it, loving it for the sheer joy of loving it. It is life for life’s sake: no goal, no purpose, no destination.

~~ Osho ~~

If you wonder what this has to do with a site about touch and intimacy and sexuality – LOTS!! We do it most often with regard to our partners/lovers and ex’s etc.

To be with a lover in the simple truth of what is real and not what we interpret and imagine to be true, is the path I love to take people on. It means we can say what we feel, ask what is meant, air our fears, open up in total honesty and be seen, heard and touched directly, as it is, with no need for facades and interpretations. Authentic connection!