For most people, sex equals effort. Would you agree? Effort to please; effort to perform; effort to achieve.

For most people, life also equals effort. Same story.

So where is all this effort heading and who are we doing it for anyway? Who are we aiming to please with all the effort we’re expending to achieve or to acquire or to prove that we can…

I’ve come to understand that one of the main reasons men experience difficulties with “premature” ejaculation, is due to this inner tension of chasing outcome and carrying a burden of effort into the bedroom. For sure, your boss might not be pleased if you gave up all effort (or your shareholders for that matter,) but when it comes to areas of life where performance doesn’t need to be measured by output, and where surrender is the way to find what you’re actually chasing – give up the chase!

Learning to let go is not only the simplest way to improve your sex-life, but it’s also a great secret for all of life. Learning this in bed makes it accessible elsewhere. Striving to impress and to out-perform, is old-school. If you want to explore something deeper in love and life, try sex without effort. It might surprise you.

I’m willing to help you figure out the specifics. Feel free to make contact.